The Prodigal Altar Boy

Saturday, June 18, 2011

I GOT a Daddy! - Part 3 - What young men need to know


I've done a lot of writing about my thoughts on men, fatherhood, and the trends I see. Thanks for the comments, I like them and they start a discussion that should continue. I hope that for all of you reading, you will post comments, continue the discussion, and more importantly, move from discussion to action in your own lives and communities.

Below is a list of things to start a list of what young men need to know. A few of those things focus on race, but apply as well to race, ethnicity, gender, religion, origin, etc.

This isn't meant to be an all-encompassing, last word on the subject list. THIS is the beginning of the discussion. Please add to the list in your comments, and I'll compile all of them into a not-too-far in the future follow up post.

Here we go:

• Once you get a job, acquire as much training as they will give you

• Before you assume it’s about race, make sure you are 100% compliant in all other areas.

• It’s always about race. Even if it’s not.

• Never threaten EEO or other legal action on the job. If you’re going to do it, then just do it.

• Before asking what you should get from a situation (job, relationship, etc.,) ask what you bring to that situation.

• When speaking to a woman, ask yourself, “Would I speak this way to my mother, sister, wife?”

• Focus on the long term. Instant gratification, especially when it takes away from long term focus, has lasting consequences.

• Watch and learn.

• The number one person who has to believe in you is you.

• While imitation can be a source of inspiration and foundation, the bottom line is the world doesn’t need another ________________, it needs you to develop your own voice.

• Maturity is the transition from the job defining you to you defining the job.

• If you’re doing something “just for the money,” find something else to do.

• While “paying dues” is part of life, there is no benefit to overpaying them.

• With “mentors,” you have a vote. Choose wisely and challenge them.

• Does the company you keep challenge you to be the best? If not, find some new company.

• The moment you give someone else the power to determine your worth, you become a slave. (no exceptions, sorry)